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What’s Mine Isn’t Yours
Monday, January 24th, 2011
I don’t care what anyone says; I want my own money. I don’t want to get (or give) an “allowance” or to have to answer for every pair of shoes I buy (which would mean a whole lot of explaining). No, I want financial independence from everyone – including my husband. Which is why I’m still happily married. (more…)
Tags: marital strife, money, Relationships, separate accounts, shoes, women over 40
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Brett Favre or Martha Stewart?
Tuesday, January 11th, 2011
The first boy I had a crush on (not counting my imaginary friend, George) was Paul Esposito. In the third grade, Paul pulled my hair, chased me from the school, and when he caught up, kissed me. He warned me not to tell anyone – which I, of course, did – and he vociferously denied it forevermore. That was my first infatuation (which lasted about 25 years, but that’s another story) and it didn’t end well.
Okay; it didn’t end that badly. We went to a girl-ask-boy dance in the 8th grade and kind of hung out together in high school, but it still was unrequited love.
Which makes me think about the timeline of our attraction to the opposite sex. (more…)
Tags: boys, Brett Favre, heterosexuality, infatuation, Martha Stewart, men, scatological humor, unrequited love
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Not That There’s Anything Wrong With That
Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010
I’m not gay. Happy, yes (at the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell), but not gay. But I do sometimes think about what separates straights from gays. Besides the obvious sex thing. Because the older I get, the more I think about the feelings I have for some women. (more…)
Tags: Christmas, DADT, don't ask, don't tell, gay, Relationships, straight, wish
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Safe Cheating
Friday, December 17th, 2010
I confess. I have lusted in my heart. I’m not talking about the Denzel-Washington-free-pass kind of lusting. I’m talking about the my-heart-is-pounding kind of lusting. It happens when we’re in the inevitable low points in our relationships (you know what I’m talking about, ladies), but it also happens without warning: that simply sexy co-worker that you deal with every day or the client who takes your breath away or the brother of a friend that you constantly cross paths with. Some guys just turn you on.
And you start thinking: what if? (more…)
Tags: affair, cheating, condoms, extramarital affair, guilt, lust, lusting in your heart, romance, women over 40
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The Natural
Monday, December 13th, 2010
Women are natural sellers. I came upon this realization recently – maybe during my orgy of Christmas movies (when Jennifer convinces Santa to let her ride in the sleigh and Ashley gets the rich, mean store owner to let her redesign the toy department). The ability to sell – both ideas and things – comes naturally to women and is probably what helps us maintain our sanity. Which is why we always get away with selling the Big Lie.
Tags: faking it, male ego, Relationships, When Harry Met Sally, women over 40, women who sell
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