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He Loves Me; He Really Loves Me

Thursday, August 13th, 2009

Today we celebrated a milestone in our marriage. Gary did something today that I never anticipated in my wildest dreams. Something most women only dream of.

Today he went to the store and picked up up toilet paper, unprompted. (more…)

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Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear

Saturday, August 8th, 2009

This is an absolutely incredible and eye-opening story about a woman dealing with her husband’s midlife crisis, published last week in the New York Times Modern Love column.

Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear
by Laura A. Munon

But wait. This isn’t the divorce story you think it is. Neither is it a begging-him-to-stay story. It’s a story about hearing your husband say “I don’t love you anymore” and deciding not to believe him. And what can happen as a result.

If you’ve been there, worry about getting there or think you’ll never be there, read this. I mean it.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/fashion/02love.html

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Sex, Drugs and R*** or How to Enjoy a Business Meeting

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

I want to talk about sex, and one very important part of sex – especially for women – is fantasies. And, yes, rape (or simply being overpowered by a man) is a common fantasy. Accept it. Here’s what I’ve learned: real rape – something none of us want – is about a man exerting power. Fantasy rape, on the other hand, is about being so desirable that your fantasy man has to have you, no matter what. And you, as the victim, can’t be held responsible. Or it might actually be your way of being in control – after all, it’s your fantasy. It’s not only perfectly normal to have this fantasy; it’s one lots of women have. So, don’t feel guilty or disturbed or dirty if you have rape fantasies. Okay – you can feel dirty. That’s the idea of a fantasy anyway.  (more…)

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Don’t You Miss Ads Like These?

Saturday, July 25th, 2009

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The “No Curves” Zone: Love is a Battlefield

Saturday, July 11th, 2009

The hoopla surrounding the death of Michael Jackson overwhelmed a number of other stories that raise the issue of how love and commitment is defined in today’s world.  There were the revelations of Nevada Senator John Ensign’s affair with a campaign aide, and his alleged violation of state and federal laws by placing the woman, her husband and their son on his Senate payroll while the affair was in full swing.  Next came South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s affair with a woman in Argentina, his extraordinary press conference, the publishing of personal and intimate letters between the two, and revelations of other affairs that have put Sanford (like Ensign, an early favorite for the 2012 Republican presidential nomination) out on a ledge.  Now we have the strange case of Steve McNair, the former professional football player, who was shot by his 20-year old lover in what police are calling a murder-suicide.

Setting aside the political impact of Ensign’s and Sanford’s behavior, and the damage to McNair’s image as a football “hero,” one has to ask:  Why would these successful men, who have lived their lives in the public eye and worked hard to cultivate a positive image, act so recklessly?  (more…)

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