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Dream Lover


Picture this: I’m somewhere, in a situation with a really sexy guy and I am so turned on that I know what’s coming. But then… The guilt clicks in. Oh did I mention? This is a dream.  Yes, a dream. So, tell me. Why is it that I can’t enjoy a good, honest to God sexy dream without feeling guilty?

I’ve been married for over 30 years. I really love my husband. I wouldn’t even think about cheating on him. But … I would like to just have an erotic dream where I can actually do the deed without feeling  like a harlot. Why is it that I just can’t do it? Is that fair? I mean, really. I’m entitled to my fantasies. They  shouldn’t  have to happen only when I’m awake, should they?

This is what happens to me: I  dream about being with somebody other than my husband (and I’m not going to say who…who i dream about even surprises me). So, I’m feeling incredibly turned on. But then, kind of as an afterthought,  before anything actually happens, I remember “Oh, wait. I’m married. I can’t do this.“

What kind of sick thinking is that? What kind of sick, perverted person stops themselves from having dream sex because they’re married?  I ought to have my head examined.

So, I appeal to my readers: what can I do to get over this? Am I going to have to cheat in real life just to be able to cheat in my dreams?

Never mind. I’m kidding, Gary. Really.

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  1. Bob MacKay says:

    Seems to me this is an opportunity you can potentially take advantage of. Use the content of your dream in much the same way you would use any daytime fantasy that helps get your motor going as a form of mental foreplay. It means less REAL foreplay work for Gary, which he might appreciate. 🙂

  2. Jade Greene says:

    Stop feeling guilty. Your dreams might not even be about sex. Do you feel married to your job? Stuck in a situation with other family members? The sex could be a metaphor for something you’re passionate about, and feel is missing from your life, being kept from you… and if not, step up your game, Gary ! 😜

  3. David Alexander says:

    I agree with the previous posts. Stop stressing and do the deed! This really has nothing to do with your love for Gary. Your subconscious is searching for something and you (and the physical act) are just along for the ride. Guess what — we’ve all found ourselves in this situation.

  4. Michael Terzano says:

    Just admitting that it’s about me will cure you b/c you’ll know your dreams are normal, since so many other women have the same dreams. About me! The truth will set you free!

  5. Ned says:

    What you can do is pull off the mask and revel the truth. I’m tired of all the secrecy. You need to come clean and tell him the truth about us. I love you Lulu and I’ll shout it from the hilltops. The time has come. It’s now or never. Either him or me. Make up your mind! You also need to tell him about our two children, little Neddie and Little Lulu. I don’t know what more there is to say. Please don’t disappoint me. Let him know that your business trips were really to TN to spend time with the three of us as a family should be……together. I don’t have any more to say.

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