http://beyondbabedom.com/hoarding-for-the-hoards/ We're (way) over 40. Deal with it. Sun, 14 Jan 2018 22:24:15 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.8.5 http://beyondbabedom.com/hoarding-for-the-hoards/comment-page-1/#comment-4017 Sun, 14 Aug 2011 18:55:51 +0000 http://beyondbabedom.com/?p=3260#comment-4017 Friends I seldom hear from (“seldom,” used here is a euphemism for “never”), may be a mutual disconnect. It’s now normal for me to not feel torn up over it. As one grows in life, so to should their relationships.

]]> http://beyondbabedom.com/hoarding-for-the-hoards/comment-page-1/#comment-3895 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 02:11:50 +0000 http://beyondbabedom.com/?p=3260#comment-3895 I saw that one show about hoarders and it was really bad ho some of these people live. They don’t even seem like people, more like rats.

]]> http://beyondbabedom.com/hoarding-for-the-hoards/comment-page-1/#comment-3877 Sat, 06 Aug 2011 15:29:05 +0000 http://beyondbabedom.com/?p=3260#comment-3877 What about holding on to stretched out underwear. . . .just in case?

]]> http://beyondbabedom.com/hoarding-for-the-hoards/comment-page-1/#comment-3870 Fri, 05 Aug 2011 16:06:31 +0000 http://beyondbabedom.com/?p=3260#comment-3870 From a psychodynamic point of view, I think the retention of objects such as you describe result from a one of two causes;either the desire to maintain the pleasure that derives from an object or compensation for a loss real or imagined. Some things we keep for what we call “sentimental reasons”, i.e. the pleasure we derive from the positive emotions these objects prompt. For instance, handling my Great Grandfather’s calipers made by his hand in the 1850’s with his name inscribed, connects me with his existence, and gives me a sense of continuity. Flornie has kept such objects as her children’s teeth as a reminder of her sublime pleasure in parenting. Objects may substitute for loss or give the owner a sense of emotional permanence not felt in their day to day lives. Objects don’t argue, leave, or age, and in that sense they become imbued with the possessor’s sense of certainty in an uncertain world. Neither of these behaviors need be considered aberrant unless they are carried to extremes. If the object(s) become imbued with the emotions they provoke to the exclusion of creating or maintaining other, equally pleasurable or more fruitful emotions in the effort to maintain stasis, the possessor may become “frozen” emotionally. If the object(s) compensating for loss or supporting a sense of certainty become the focus of a life, they diminish the value intrinsic in that life, and strangle the need for emotional flexibility.

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