De-Cluttering Your Life
Doesn’t it feel great to get rid of stuff? You know, streamline, reorganize, declutter. It always gives me such a good feeling to put bags and bags of clothes out for a charity to take away. Ah! Closet space! Funny; we love acquiring things – shopping, collecting for hobbies, scrap-booking – but eliminating things from our life can be almost as rewarding. . . and sometimes, even more so. Occasionally, the things you most need to get rid of are . . . your friends.Okay; not all of your friends. But aren’t there people in your life who just bog you down? People who may have at one time had something in common with you, but now. . . you wonder why you don’t just delete them from your memory and your cell phone. Just like old tchotchkes that gather dust and take up space in your house, these friends take up space in your life. You know what I’m talking about. That woman who you used to have lunch with every day on your first job who now has absolutely nothing in common with you. In fact, she’s still at that same job. Or your old disco buddy who is still hitting the clubs. Or the mother of the kid who used to hang out with your kid. . .who’s now 34.
Not that there’s inherently anything wrong with these people. We just outgrow them. It’s not that you dislike them, but when their name comes up on your caller ID. . . well, let’s say, you’re just glad you have caller ID. Sometimes – most of the time – you don’t have the energy to carry on a conversation with them. Which is usually the “tell”: you run out of talk once you’ve “caught up” on the old job, their kid, your old dance partners. You see, there is a reason to leave them in your iPhone - so you can avoid them.
But how do you break up with them without feeling guilty? Most of us try to let these relationships die a slow death; we don’t return calls, we make up excuses not to get together. Basically, we do all the same things we would do if it we wanted a guy to take a hint. Breaking up is so hard to do.
So, what’s a girl to do? Keep up the charade and hope you don’t pick up their call by mistake? Lie and say you’re about to get a tooth drilled whenever they ring you up? Pretend you’re out of the country when they invite you to a party?
Oh – and if I’ve ever used these excuses with you, I really, really meant it. Really.