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The No-Hug Zone

Monday, September 14th, 2009

Two third grade boys see each other for the first time since June. The yell from opposite ends of the playground and run as fast as they can, ending in a bear hug of happiness.

After which they are taunted by fifth grade boys, who accuse them of “humping” each other.

Now, imagine this scenario with two girls. You can’t, right? Because even though there are tons of reasons girls can be brutal to each other, harassing one another for showing affection isn’t one of them. We can kiss each other on the lips without a smidge of worry about what people will think (except those purvey guys who drool over it). So, tell me this: why are guys so hung up about male-male affection? (more…)

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You Hated Me? Thanks!

Saturday, June 13th, 2009

Men will never understand this. One woman tells another that, upon first meeting, she “hated” her. And   the second woman smiles and says, “Really? Thanks!” Yes, men, this does happen. Every day. It’s as common as women complimenting each other’s shoes and hair. And it’s a sign of affection.

Because when we say, “I hated you,” that means we were jealous. And the reason we were jealous is because  we thought they were really attractive. Or skinny. Or shapely. Or. . . you get the gist. Which brings me to the meat of my post: who do we dress for?  Heterosexual women want to be attractive to men (I’d like to invite a lesbian sister to join me on this blog for their point of view, so pass this on). We want men to admire us, to desire us, to inspire us. But I believe that most women really dress to impress women.

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