Are you a Cougar?
Yow! Yippie! Hip Hip Hooray! I’m finally launching this blog. . . .it’s about time, right?
Well, let me get started on a subject that I’ve had on my mind: the term “cougar.”
Who came up with this unflattering description of a woman dating a younger man? I’d bet a million it wasn’t one of us. When I’ve suggested that this phrase is hostile toward women, I’m reminded by chuckling men (and women as well) that old men who date young women are called “leches” or “geezers” or “dirty old men” so . . . why am I complaining?
Here’s why: a man is only called a lech (short for lecher) or a dirty old man if there is a significant age difference (and those phrases still refer to humans, not animals). You never hear that phrase used when a 40 year old man is dating a 30 year old woman or when 60 year old men date women in their 50′s. No, these guys are usually called. . . divorced. Or Don Juans, Casanovas, or, at worst, women chasers. Makes them sound sort of romantic.
But what are we named after? A treacherous animal! Yes, because women are soooooo dangerous. Tell me – who are the murderers? The genocidal maniacs? Who starts all the wars and who goes to extreme sport matches and dog fights? Who leaves cabinets and drawers open? (Yeah, I know that has absolutely nothing to do with this, but I felt like throwing it in.)
Which gender is most likely to kill an ex-lover who has dumped them? “Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned ” my ass.
I say it’s time to stop just letting them label us and refuse to let them control the language. And by them I mean men.
We’re not “sluts” if we engage in sex. We’re not “bitches” if we stand up for ourselves. And we’re not “cougars” because men a few years younger are more attractive than . . . old geezers.